(Note: This was originally published on the Web Site Bi Social Network last holiday season)
A Very Bi Holiday Season: Decorating and Dealing
It is coming, an event even harder to escape from then a Black Friday shopping mob attacking one another over the last Blu-Ray player. The holiday season dun dun duuun! Now that most of us have emerged from the Turkey induced coma that was Thanksgiving we have a great task before us. Decorating for the holiday of our choice this winter and dealing with the large amounts of time with extended family and the awkwardness that can bring. First we will deal with that and then move onto some fun bi themed decorating ideas.(Warning: I am in no way Martha Stewart so use at your own risk!)
Maybe like me, you managed to avoid a large family thanksgiving and are now worried that while you may have escaped the uncomfortableness of that one time meal you know have a whole month and a few days for relatives to drop in for longer times. Relatives like; Conservative Uncle Joe, Great Aunt Tilly, Loud Mouth Cousin Lenny and Over Sharing Sister Sara. Most families seem to have these types of characters in them. Uncle Joe will loudly talk about how “the gays” are taking over the world, or marriage equality is destroying marriage! Great Aunt Tilly can’t remember your name and talks about Farmville too much and then Loud Mouth Lenny and Over Sharing Sara embarrass or out you to everyone causing a huge awkward silence. What is a bi person to do?!
Well unless you are already out and your family is cool with you (adopt me? Please?) Being bisexual this could cause some issues. The best bet is to get to the problem people first and fast. An e-mail to Lenny and Sara asking them not to out you may solve the problem. But if it does happen anyway the best you can do is be honest and open about things at that moment.
Another issue that arises is when you want to invite your partner over for the holiday festivities. This can be very tricky. Sometimes Loud Mouth Lenny and Over Sharing Sara have already managed to notify the rest of the family ahead of time and you have dealt with any fall out already. If not, then it is up to you what you want to do, come out few weeks before hand and then bring your partner or surprise them all and just show up.It can be very hard to maneuver this stuff but one golden rule is this: You are not responsible for other people’s reactions to things.”(I heard Mr Spock say this on a episode of Star Trek so it must be true!)
Now onto decorating ideas! If you have a pet like I do, ornaments are really just glass and plastic grenades hanging in wait to be blown to bits with the flick of a tail. So this year I had the idea of going to the craft store and purchase some of those Styrofoam balls used to make solar systems(and then bounce Mars off your siblings head) and paint them Bi pride colors, or wrap them in bi colored ribbons or glitter. You can also decorate your tree or house with bi pride colored ornaments. At places such as Wal-Mart I’ve seen plenty of pink, purple and blue ornaments of all kinds, from snowflakes to birds. Looking for an outside light show? LED lights in bi colors could look nice or the old stand by rainbow lights can make your house visible and easy for relatives to find (whether that is a good thing or a bad thing, I will leave up to the reader).
Already on social media sites like Facebook, Twitter and Tumblr I’ve seen everything from bi pride menorah’s and Hanukah bushes to rainbow tree’s and Bi and Rainbow Lunar New Years Snakes! So even if you don’t want to decorate your house or apartment you can still join in on the fun online!